Does any of this sound familiar?
You: “Remember, it is you who is walking out, I am ready to talk!” or even “You were the one to start it!” or “Your words sicken me and make me mad!” or at times, “If you have the right then so do I!”
These are the words frequently that echo in a marriage relationship.
Trust me, co operating or giving in even when you actually do not wish to, simply for the sake of your relationship will definitely give you positive results. Even a small change can help like if one of you says something new during a recurring argument leaving no room for the other person to respond in a predictable manner.
It always takes two to tango, unhealthy fighters have the tendency make vague arguments and try to put their point of view in a negative rather than a positive way and have the inability to listen to the conversation which in turn leads to nasty finger pointing and the relationship loses all its warmth over a period of time.
The equations in this sensitive relationship are complex yet simple to use, but by using emotions of resentment, bitterness, blaming each other takes away the chance of repairing your relationship.
Blame coexists with control, by indulging in the blame game in an argument, you are in fact gifting him a power to control which navigates your relationships.
However when you do not indulge in battle of blame game, you are invariably better placed in the relationship, as in effect you are sharing both, the emotions like credit and blame with your husband, as a dialogue between a man and wife is called life.
By using this formula you have cleansed your heart and soul and you are at liberty to make mistakes and grow as a team, whereas when you target him for all your hardships you will be stranded all alone with no one to share and enjoy your achievements.
The relationship between a husband and wife is like steering a horse carriage as a team, but if God forbid your better half steers you in to a ditch and you are hurt, you may react impulsively and in anger snatch the reins away from your partner and find yourself another ditch to fall in to, just to hit back hard. It is advisable to keep the reins of your marriage in your control to ensure a smooth ride and not to make him comprehend how tough a bumpy ride can get.
The opening statements shared in the opening of this write up can be said in yet another simple and efficient manner. “I wish we would put an end to this argument I’m exhausted and long to be with you.”
You may be hesitant to use this as closing line as you may feel cheated even when you know you are right but it still is the best option to create a harmonious environment lead a peaceful co-existence.
